Marriage is one of the most responsible and conscious decisions. Many people take it only once, while others can make such choice two, or even more times and in any case, marriage is a significant step for everyone. But how sad it is when a seemingly “excellent” married couple, living soul to soul, at some point ends their relationship with a divorce.
Marriage and divorce are everyday trials. In Western countries, more than 90 percent of people get married by the age of 50. In good marriages, both partners are healthy mentally and physically. Their children are growing up in happy families and are free from any problems: mental, physical, educational, and social.
In the USA, around 40 to 50 percent of all marriages are destroyed. The divorce rate for ensuing marriages is even higher, according to apa.org. The more detailed statistics is available at en.wikipedia.org.
The reason for such breakup can be different: starting from serious betrayal and ending with regular household trifles, which both partners have a different opinion about. For example, site marriage.com demonstrates twenty reasons, and here are some of them:
– lack of communication;
– often arguing;
– too high expectations;
– lack of intimacy;
– the very young age of partners (they are not prepared for it);
– distrust, and so on.
But as our world is continuously evolving, there are more and more reasons for divorce. For example, there are families in which a breakdown in relations begins during the election period, where the husband supports one candidate (party), and the wife supports the other, or vice versa. In some families, breakups occur against the background of communication with relatives or friends who are trying in every way to “teach” how to live correctly.
One of the reasons for the last and most striking example of the divorce has become the Coronavirus, from which the whole world is currently suffering. Coronavirus (COVID-19) is a contagious disease. It is caused by heavy acute respiratory syndrome coronavirus 2 (SARS-CoV-2). Its symptoms include fever, cough, and shortness of breath. Other symptoms are fatigue, muscle pain, diarrhea, sore throat, loss of smell, and abdominal pain. The period from exposure to appearing of symptoms is typically around five days but may range from two to fourteen days.
It is already a well-known fact that at first, this type of virus was not taken seriously by anyone. And even when information about fatalities began to appear, everyone stayed calm. Awareness of what is going on has happened when all countries’ leaders officially started declaring of the spread of the virus and initiating quarantine.
At that moment, everything has changed dramatically for many families and couples who still have no children because being isolated and being
around 24 hours a day, seven days a week, is quite tricky, sometimes even almost impossible. People have to balance their career life and personal life.
It is needed to get used to each other’s habits, good or bad, and that is not so noticeable when people do not spend so much time together. You need to find a compromise, always and in everything, and this is very difficult. But the more time people spent together, the more they hate each other. The website bloomberg.com demonstrates examples of divorce reasons, some of those are even silly.
For example, a woman decided to get a divorce because she was annoyed by her husband’s habit of engaging their two children in play in the evening when they were supposed to be going to bed.
The nypost.com shows even more examples. The main reason of all breakups is that people recognize they do not know each other well enough: habits, likes, dislikes, and they have nothing in common.
Being in relationships is hard, but every couple has its secret on how to keep excellent and valid relations. Some need emotional bond more than a physical one. For some, on the contrary, a physical connection is the most essential: kissing, hugging, holding hands – all these things have to be present in relations as well.
The website edition.cnn.com demonstrates a great article that is based on the opinions of licensed marriage and family therapists, clinical psychologists and married people, and that gives the best advice of how to keep your marriage. However, some other facts have an influence on relations.
1. Have honest and open communication.
Communication is essential. Every couple has conflicts, but partners know how to find a compromise and to keep the conversation open.
2. Remember the small things.
Always have respect for your partner. Say please and thank you, keep polite conversation with your spouse.
3. Train with your partner.
It is well-known that couples who exercise together are not only healthier but more satisfied with their marriage.
4. Support each other always and in everything.
It is essential to be a reliable support and protection for your partner. Everyone needs to know that there is a person in his life who will accept and understand his decision.
5. Change roles and responsibilities from time to time.
Routine can make relations sluggish. Changing roles will not only mix things up a little- it may make you appreciate things from your partner’s perspective. Changing roles in the bedroom can flavor a relationship.
Also, discover new things and places, meet new people, laugh, smile, eat, play, and do all possible things together but do not overdo it.
For more functional pieces of advice, visit helpguide.org and lifehack.org. They might help to keep relations healthy, happy, and fresh.
It’s effortless to destroy relations by being isolated during the Coronavirus period, or simply because of a banal quarrel. It is much more challenging to maintain relationships, and not everyone is brave enough to do everything possible to renew a “dying” bond even though it has been building for many years. Today and in the current situation of isolation, people have forgotten how to manage things and keep emotions to make happy not only yourself but those who are in surrounding.
It is time to remind or to learn how to listen, cooperate, and compromise.